Sometime back while I was in India I called one of my friends. Her son took the phone and when I told him that I am his mother's friend, I heard him saying to himself that 'mother has a friend?' I was surprised when I heard this. Because, this boy does not know that his mother was a very social and happy girl surrounded by many friends during her young age before her marriage. Her beautiful, smiling face is still in my memory. Now, I don't see any smile on her face. All the happiness vanished from her life years ago when her husband left her and her kids for another woman.
How people can smile when their life goes through miseries, frustrations and unhappy situations?
But, some people have the ability to cover up all their pains and tragedies. They smile always even if they are crying from inside. They don't want others to see what they are experiencing and going through in life. They accept life as it is and ready to embrace the good and bad with equal mental power.
A request to all men. Those who don't have a good heart or cannot live properly as a husband and father by doing all their duties and responsibilities, please don't go for marriage. Those who want freedom and want to live their lives according to their desires, please don't spoil the life of a woman. All the pleasures for the mind and body are available in this world, if you have money and power. There is no need for a marriage.
This statement is applicable to women also who don't care for their husbands and kids.
My friend is a divorcee and living with her grown-up children in her family home. She is a living monument of a man's cruelty and cheating. In one way, she and kids are lucky. Her parents, siblings and all other relatives support her and her kids tremendously. My friend married this man years ago attracted by his glamor and high paid job (it was not true) in the gulf. When the proposal came, the parents only gave importance to the boy's charm and job. They didn't enquire about the boy's character or family background.
So, parents who have daughters should be careful. Before giving your daughters to unknown men, merely attracted by their charm and lies, check and make necessary enquiries about the boy and the family.
Many a times when tragedies occur in life, many women, even if they are educated, get depressed and lead a lonely life and turn away from their friends and other outside contacts. Women, who were like butterflies once and who loved laughter and fun, change themselves by the severe blows of destiny and live like birds in cages. They are afraid to face the outside world. They are afraid of people. They think and believe everything according to their bitter experiences in life they have faced from others or from their unhappy family life.
Many a times, I heard some men/women advising others that "marriage is a burden and it is better to avoid." Mostly such opinions come from men/women who have grown up by watching the unhappy life of their parents ( a cruel mother who is harassing and controlling her husband and kids or a cruel father creating troubles and treating his wife and kids very badly).
A son, who has grown up by the influence of a harassing and controlling mother, naturally won't give any value to his wife when he gets married. He shows his hatred towards his mother by punishing his wife. Because, he cannot punish his mother for all her evil doings. Instead, he finds happiness in harassing his wife physically and mentally, to satisfy his mind and for taking revenge for his mother's cruel tortures which he had to suffer during his childhood and young days.
A man, who has lived with a good mother, will always respect and love his wife, and of course, will give importance to his family life.
A daughter, who has grown up by watching the cruelties and immoral activities of her dad, won't trust her life partner. She knows how her mother is suffered and she won't sacrifice her life like her mother and will be always conscious about her life.
But in some cases, children who grew up in unhappy atmosphere will lead a good life learning from their parent's lives. They are more practical and have more wisdom. They want to be role models to their life partners and kids. Instead of complaining and preaching wrong messages about married life, they show others that marriage is sacred. It is a life of sharing and caring. It is a beautiful world, when a man/woman lives for each other by thinking and feeling that they are one and they enjoy each moment when they are together and even physically away they love each other. Such caring and loving attitude creates happiness and peace at homes.
Many women live their lives just like birds which are inside cages. They don't have any freedom. Even their movements are under observation. They are like prisoners. They get food, water and shelter. But their lives are always inside cages.
